A lot of dating advice focuses on how to perform better:
- How to text.
- How to impress.
- How to avoid mistakes.
- How to increase attraction.
That assumes the goal of a first date is approval.
In reality, a first date is for discovery.
Not:
“Can I make this person like me?”
Rather:
“Are we compatible once the performance drops?”
The way you approach dating changes once compatibility becomes the goal instead of approval.